breakup pain

Breakup Pain Turned into the Ultimate Positive Experience

I know your breakup is one of the most challenging emotional experiences you may ever endure in your lifetime, but you can turn your breakup pain into a positive experience by making a choice right now. A choice to…

Get busy livin’ or get busy sorrowin’.

That’s my spin on the classic quote from the number one rated film in IMDB and a personal favorite of mine, The Shawshank Redemption.

Breakup pain avoided
Andy Dufresne after escaping from prison.

The reality is that the cost to do what you want in your life is relatively nothing. This is the new world that we live in. You can wake up today and be whoever you want to be. You see, there’s this thing called the internet. It has completely gotten rid of any barriers and excuses people come up with in their head about not making their vision a reality.

Most of these justifications are complete nonsense and now the internet is here to smoke you out of your bullshit, because we live in the most privileged time in history, and there’s no better time to start than RIGHT NOW.

“Right after my breakup, Payam?! Are you nuts?”

Yes, right after your breakup.

See, when it comes to starting a new venture, people tend to come up with excuses. Most of which somehow revolve around time, money, or freedom.

Well, you just got all three of these back.

  • The time you would be spending with your ex, you now have.
  • The money you would be spending with your ex, you now got.
  • The freedom you may not have had, you just replenished.

So, whether you are in school, working, unemployed, or have kids, you just gained some pretty amazing things in your life, and it’s critical that you change your outlook and turn your breakup into a positive experience.

You can either think about your breakup pain consistently and feel bad for yourself or you can choose to live and focus the attention back on yourself by creating something. I don’t care if it’s a piece of artwork, a new video, a startup, a website, anything.

What’s interesting is that not only is pursuing a new project helpful in distracting yourself from your ex, but now you are becoming more attractive. It gives you something to talk about when you talk to her again.

Breakup pain sucks

Believe me, I know breakups suck and she’s on your mind every fucking day, but you still have a choice. Do you want to look at the glass half empty or half full? It’s your call.

I’ll tell you something though, the world won’t feel sorry for you or your breakup. Posting your story on reddit? No one gives a shit about your pain. You may get some sympathy comments, but 5 min later that person forgot totally about you. Do you know why? Because everyone is FOCUSED ON THEMSELVES. Their own relationships, problems, agendas, etc. It’s time to wake up, and turn that attention back to you, too.

Turn it into something positive

Twist this breakup pain into a positive experience. Let’s turn your breakup into a major turning point in your life. Go back to your passions, your hobbies, and your dreams. What excites you? What drives you?! GO GET IT!

Look, I’m not sure if you know this or not, but we’re all going to be dead soon. If that doesn’t inspire you to try something new, take a risk, and turn your breakup into a positive experience, I’m not sure what will.

What’s holding you back the most? Comment and I’ll help you get over the edge.